I have been burning the candle at both ends, for a while now. It’s all fine and good to keep going and going and going. For a little while.
Eventually, in the marathon that you’re running, your legs will start to give out.
And if you’re balancing it all perfectly and have your cupcakes perfectly iced and in a row, this post isn’t for you. If you’ve reached your highest potential and have mastered self-care, please share your secrets. (I’m serious!!)
This post is for the mamas who are striving not to just survive, but to THRIVE.
Here goes ….
This past week I accessed services from a naturopath, over the phone. This is a service offered through my employer and I thought, hey, it’s worth a try! I know I need to do something to create more balance, health and well-being in my life.
I wanted support for being more healthy for myself and for my son who has sleep issues (and I suspect some food intolerances, that is another story for another day). An alternative approach to health is something I’ve always been interested in and I have wanted to see a naturopath for a long time, but have had NO TIME. The phone consult was a perfect opportunity to talk with a naturopath at a time that suited my busy schedule.
He asked me some questions, and I shared more about me, my family, my life and my concerns and goals.
It was like he KNEW me, you guys! HA. No, he didn’t really know ME, but he works with working mothers in downtown Toronto, whose lives are likely far more hectic than mine.
I felt heard.
There were a lot of tips that he gave me about nutrition, exercise and self-care.
Then, he asked,
“What are you doing for yourself?”
Well at this time, I was coming up to a busy week at work, my husband was getting ready to travel for a full week away, and I was stumped. I write for fun and as a hobby…I thought….I exercise…I’m TRYING to read books that are not education-related.
No, the question wasn’t what do you do for fun for yourself, in general.
The question was, what are you doing DAILY for yourself.
I had nothin’.
The naturopath (and my new BFF, as I jokingly remarked) helped me to create some goals for the next few weeks, before my next telephone check in. One of them was to take 20 (YES, TWENTY) minutes a day, just for me.
Sure, I can do that, I thought to myself.
“But…”, he added a caveat, “it cannot be things that are already required of you — like walking the dog that your kids wanted to get and now you’re the one caring for it…that’s not for you”
“That doesn’t count….”
“Okay”, I quietly stated. I really understood what he meant and I felt like he had a very good understanding of the pressures of career mamas with multiple demands.
20 minutes for me.
This is do-able.
When I was leaving the office on Friday, I stopped in to talk with a dear friend and mentor who’s office is next to mine. I shared my revelation (okay, the naturopath’s revelation) as she was telling me about her plans to mark papers ALL weekend.
When I told her the story about the dog walking, she laughed … that was the first thing she thought of – well, I can take the dog for a walk! We chuckled and she, in all seriousness said, “you know, I take breaks from work on the weekends to walk the dog, or maybe fold the laundry, but that really isn’t a break at all…”
We made a pact to hold each other accountable and will be sharing our “20 minutes for me” moments with each other after the weekend.
From these conversations, I thought to myself that there must be so many other people who are experiencing the same thing…
This is my first official CHALLENGE for our online community! I am so excited, and hope that you’ll join us!
Share a post, picture or any other updates about YOUR #20minutesforme activity.
Leave a comment below and share some of your ideas with others (who may be stumped as to what do for their 20 minutes!)
No laundry allowed.
With gratefulness that you’re here.